4 Reasons why you can’t stick to your decisions
Time to step up your game
How much does your self-currency weigh in your life stock exchange?
Are your stocks on an all time low in the category of being a loser or on all time high in categories of being an authentic winner? Before you expect the world to invest in you through relationships or business dealings, have you done anything to raise the price of your stocks? The foremost compelling thing to do is make decisions which may sound difficult or bold but support the long term goals for your stocks evaluation. The decision could range anywhere from building a new company, quit smoking or going vegan for life.
But sometimes no matter what & how much we do, it’s almost impossible to stay on with decisions that we intend to pursue. This never lets your stocks to move up from being just a loser. Yes the word hurts if personified to any of us. Here outlining the knots that are keeping you away from your idea of a fabulous life.
Difference between conviction & convenience
What is really governing you to invest in a decision? Is it to explore a fancy idea that will make you look like an influential figure or commit to an intention that brings hope for the life that you always wanted? If it’s just a wish-list then our efforts to make it a reality would be lot like that make up which we wear before a party. It makes it convenient for us to look more sociable & likeable temporarily. However once the party is over, we begin to feel it like a burden & want to get rid of it as soon as possible. On the contrary think about a person battling a life threatening disease who wants to fight it out with a conviction to stay forever close to his loved ones. This decision is coming from his bones & very unlikely that he could take any efforts taken in that direction for granted.
Next time take a decision out of conviction & not convenience. It will both save time & efforts.
Lesser deliberation on why
“Once you know your why, you can survive almost any how” – Viktor Frankl
In a world where staying busy is in fashion, the “what” of a decision is celebrated like a hero & “why” is overlooked as the actor who was promised a big role in the movie but ended up with a flimsy presence. The “what” of a decision depicts the possibilities that can help achieve key goals. In hindsight, the “what” resonates with successful role models or narratives of the herd mentality disguised as accepted societal norms. The hack to crack the code of this vicious cycle is by deliberating enough on “why” we want to do “what” we decide to do. The reasons behind “why” captures the self context in view of the world while being aware about the opportunity cost of not taking that decision as well. The intentions of why is more about creating a life which is designed & not photocopy of what everyone else thinks.
Focusing on “what” gives us logical reasons to pursue our decisions. Focusing on “why” empowers us to stick to our decisions & take actions
Long term goals but short term expectation
Have you tried chasing the mirage of water on a hot day while being on a long drive from Mumbai to Goa? I did it relentlessly like a child who believes in magic. I learned with time that there was actually no water on the road. But it did left me amused on seeing its connection to real life. We too build some long term goals with glitter of hope in our eyes & deep excitement in our hearts. These goals possess the power to transform our lives & we want them accomplished tomorrow. But the truth is everything takes its own sweet time for it to bloom in its best version. Don’t expect them to be realized too soon because if they were small enough then they may not have featured as a dream that you were longing for.
Keep hope since that’s all that we have. Keep working because that’s all that matters.
Lack of self-love
“Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all times”
There have been times when it can feel that the whole world is against you. No matter what’s done to fix it, you’re being constantly targeted. A friend is disappointed when you say no to go out for a drink. Parents might show their dissonance with the choice of your life partner. Some colleagues are inherently pissed because you did not succumb to their tactics. We might put up a bold face to hide our vulnerabilities but somewhere deep within we are worried about being disliked. We are anxious about what others are going to think. This lack of self belief hijacks our center of control to the point of deviating us from the key decisions that we seek to endeavor. A key to unlocking this mindless drama is self-love. Simply put self love is to worry about yourself instead of loving the idea of other people loving you. It will not only bring back the control but would make you aware of the times when you are facilitating other agendas in the hope of being liked.
With self-love, you shall stick to the decisions that are best for you & done worrying about what anyone feels about it.
Conclusion
Listen to the call of the wild, it never lies. Wild represents the universe that exists within you. The art of sticking to your decisions lies with you. Don’t look for it outside…
